Showing posts with label RELATIONSHIP. Show all posts
Showing posts with label RELATIONSHIP. Show all posts

Friday, March 18, 2016

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THE REAL MAN-A PURPOSE DRIVEN PERSONALITY

   I’ve made certain obvious discoveries on this issue of the real man. There has been conflicting signals which tends to portray one concept or the other over the guy who really is the real man. These concepts are mainly generated by the female gender, whose ideas about the real man are mostly based on sentiments and emotions. These sentimental approach to defining a real man gives rise to certain concepts which to them is a scale for determining the man who is real for sure. But are these concepts true? An answer that will only come from within the very deepest sincere part of the male gender. These concepts of the female gender are being guided by “emotions” and “sentiments” –which serves as a determinant of love for  a 21st century lady. A man who is yet to touch these two parts of a lady's life today is seen as an amateur.
Just as regards to what we see in our friendship and relationship. A purpose driven guy could be friends with a girl. Being inspired by purpose and bent on actualizing a God given vision. A lady on the other hand seems not to be interested in the guy’s life of purpose, but rather on the presumed roles which to her carries the full course of a real man. Sometimes the guy in question if not firmly rooted in his God given purpose gets carried away and begins to answer what I call the “The Voice to come Home”. The male individual gets compelled to become the man through the roles he plays on the females side rather than the purpose driven signal he sends on her fore front. This compulsion could cause him to begin to make promises and proposals which he has never given a single thought of fulfillment to the detriment of the female recipient.
He is then trapped to make a costly assumption of the vague fact that the image of a REAL MAN is anchored on ROLES  - showing affection, care, sex e.t.c. These has become the subject of defining a real man. This consequently resulting to cracks and fissures in so many good relationships and friendships. Is this really the true picture of a real man.
WHO IS A REAL MAN?
A real man is someone who knows the reality of who he is and who lives in that reality.
~Dr. Myles Munroe.
Do you see a man diligent in his works, he shall stand before kings.
~SCRIPTURE
A real man is a man who has a purpose – a God given work with a sincere determination to uphold diligence in the God given vision.
To the ladies, stop being concerned about fugitive roles, which to some people is a perfect instrument in the art of seduction.  Again stop getting more interested in what you want to hear than what you want to see that poor innocent guy become. Remember love is patience. And where there is a will, there is a way.
To the guys, lets uphold the real tenets of being the real men we are created to be. Having this understanding that the true identity of a man is found in his purpose not in his roles.
Sincerely yours in the spirit

~Godfrey Eyah

Monday, February 22, 2016

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BE YOURSELF AND REMAIN REAL.




I want to be like Kim Kardashian, Beyonce,Yemi Alade,Jay-Z, Chris Brown,Davido etc That's cool and fine. Everyone has their choice to make. Come to think of this,in the name of being like all these people that we admire,how do we actually look, after we've finally imitated them,either in dressing,hair making? etc. Being like someone else,automatically makes you a counterfeit of the person you're imitating and also,renders your existence and personality into extinction.

Maybe your knee has developed some hard tissues that have been weakened and rendered to death because of your constant prayers by kneeling,asking God to supply you with your own man. Let me shock you,your partner in life is never far from you,even if he/she is in US and you are here in Nigeria,something strange may likely cause the union of both the lady and the young man to come together. But the problem today is that we have foolishly despised our image in order to look like someone else. 
Your partner sees you on the road,but he cannot recognize you because your image,lifestyle and so many things that ought not to exist in your life has come to be a 'veil' that covers your real attractions and image from your man. Stop being like Helen,be like Agbomma that you're known for; stop being like Brown,be like Omemgboji that you're known for. It makes you more attractive than what you pretend to be. Be yourself and never compromise your personality just because of people's attitude towards you.
‪#‎RemainReal‬

Sunday, February 21, 2016

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DON'T GO HUSTLING.




In the means to attract people,we easily sell off our dignity,pride and our price(value). We run to people up and down,trying to make ourselves 'notice me' as if we are doing a bail-out marketing(bend down select) in the presence of all,indirectly,you're degrading yourself. "Empty vessel makes the loudest noise" And so will you see some fellows that haven't attained any height as a base of achievement or proof that he is equal to the task,he/she will be roaming around,trying to force themselves to people. Indecent dressing has also showed a very pitiable lifestyle that depicts the hustling nature of us,trying to fix ourselves to others. Your cleavages is opened beyond imagination,you used almost a bucket of paint to cover your face Etc. What's the reason behind their actions? Its latest fashion in town.

"That it looks good on a Mannequin does not really mean that it will look good on you" Make the best choice for yourself and not necessary copy-catting a lifestyle that doesn't merge to your personality. Stop begging men/women to fix into your life because you're too good for that. If you can develop yourself and brush up yourself(personal development) you'll notice that,you'll actually be the one that is been chased and looked for. Be purposeful and stop hustling to fit-in to peoples life. Let your virtues do the attraction and save yourself the stress of explaining yourself to people,in order for them to accept you.
•You worth more than a million gold.

Saturday, February 20, 2016

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LOVE WITH A SENSE OF PURPOSE.

We dash into a relationship that really gives us a wrong meaning which is far from our original definition of ourself. Who do you walk with and actually throw out your plans and secret to? Being in a relationship is not a guarantee that everything about you will be laid bare. Is she/he married to you? Nope!,to that effect,let not your relationship with people make you lose your taste and value. Everything about you,still remains confidential.

If being in a relationship will make you violate your principles,that relationship ought to go into extinction. You have a target,goal and a vision to accomplish but if he/she is not positive enough to make you feel that you're with the right person,better run for your life. Live with a sense of purpose,it makes your choice of partner very palatable that you'll live to keep remembering the purposeful relationship you've ever encountered in your life time.

Friday, February 19, 2016

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I LOVED BUT ALWAYS CHEATED


These days,many cry of heart break and a whole lot of unnecessary stories that even exists among the so-called responsible set of people. I always hear a very big lie from friends and from many intellectual personality bluffing!,pertaining if being faithful and honest in a relationship is still requisite and necessary and they deemed it fit to say that its not necessary anymore. 
But, I must correct this impression,if you think that you actually love someone,just try and maintain the meaning of love and never base on lust. When you discover that you truly love someone you'll notice that some annoying behavourial traits from your partner won't offend you that much. 
Faithfulness and trust has ran into the abyss and that has led love into extinction. My partner is dating another man and that I can't cope again. We complain a whole lot of times because we tend to devalue ourselves or has made our value to be built on our fellow human. 
When you're elevated in love,you'll notice that heart break will be far from you because love never drags you into the mud but lifts you up to numerous personality that deserves your company.

Thursday, February 18, 2016

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ADMIRATION


This guy is looking good,all day long,you've been dreaming about him/her. The guy is handsome/beautiful, tall,huge,reserved,gentle etc all these are external evaluation made within a twinkle of an eye. Well,good things attracts,but there are virtues that are abstract which ought to be the main reason for attraction that once is the core reason for your attraction will make your relationship last longer. Let's name them please,basically the one that attracts you the most.

Secondly,do you think that being attracted to someone else when you're already in a relationship will make you double date and cheat on your partner? It happens these days,and is an omen that must surely be addressed in order not to convert even the good personnels that have pledged to be faithful and honest,all through their life.

"She is more precious than rubies;nothing you desire can compare with her"-Proverbs
3 vs 15

The most intriguing factor that has rendered many people worthless and irresponsible is because of what we admire. We value fantasized packages that bears a very little poisonous substance that kills a destiny within a twinkle of an eye. Many things attracts us and so we admire it. Before we approach someone,most times we basically concentrates on the shape,the exposure of his/her body as a result of what the person is wearing and lots more but does that worth our attention? Wow! See her boobs,her beautiful leg and her breast,so cute and palatable. Automatically,you've already made mention of what is attracting you about her. And that attraction is what will keep and drive you,if you finally fall inside the cage.
When you've actually accessed and defined yourself,you'll discover that what attracts you in a woman or man is far different from what attracts the wayward fellows. Discrimination or Judgment on some persons that might be dressing nude or whatsoever,is not permitted in my arena but at least before you can keep a date or keep someone as a close friend of yours,first of all look beyond the physical because what needs to keep a man is not how good she look outside but the content of the person. I'll rest my case here but to him that wants to identify him/herself with a good character and better relationship, should first of all,make the right choice today.

Sunday, January 31, 2016

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LADIES NUGGET 2


In the previous part,I strictly discussed about the lack of character,sauciness and nudity of a woman which may contribute to the setback of her not able to meet her man or missing rib. In this part, I will be talking about beauty, cooking and vision.

BEAUTY

There’s nothing that attracts the sane and insane than beauty. Beauty naturally magnets the eye-balls of all living creatures. Even animals are attracted to beauty, that’s a natural phenomenom. One of the poems I read in my secondary school days, reminds me of a saying; “when you don’t appreciate beauty, you’ll soon become poor”. But, does appreciating beauty makes the individual a better person?NO! Not as if I hate beauty, but one’s beauty has nothing to do with your character, as a woman.

There’s a popular saying that beauty attracts but character keeps, and that’s for sure. Don’t think that show-casing your thighs, your cleavages or even wear an exposing clothing that radically x-rays your inner wears to public, will make attracted to the best man for you, hell No! that’s impossible.

Beauty is good but first and foremost, make your character and attitude your concern. Once beauty is considered too much more than character,it makes one faulty,because her effort will be one taking care of the skin or outer man rather than the inner man.
“Beauty is an added advantage, when your character is strictly considered to be harnessed”
-Emmanuel C. Akudolu

COOKING:
No matter how weird our culture could be compared to the western world on how men could enter into the kitchen and cook,its always the duty of every woman to make kitchen her second home. “I don’t know how to cook” and you’re so proud to publicize it to the public? One of the magical means of stealing a man’s heart is by preparing good dish. A lady automatically steals her man’s heart when she’s quite known to be good cook. I appreciate some parents that will always say that,even when we travel out,we are so eager to learn how to prepare different dishes with different styles.

Are you the type that cooks, and your food will always be excessively maneuvered by either salt, pepper or that you lack timing to know when food ought to be removed from fire. All these are problems and when it is not treated right, when you’re still single, it becomes a problem between you and your man(depending on the individual)

“A good cook has the power to keep his man because the major source of strength of a man,is his stomach”
-Emmanuel C. Akudolu

VISION
No matter how beautiful you’re ‘Intelligence and vision will always be the compass that any purposeful man can use,in order to be directed to the woman he thinks that can make him increase in his pursuit as a successful man everyday’ One thing about a visionary is that it makes his man very focused and encouraged to pursue more in life. Very few men that are well educated and accomplished in life will be notified with a lady that’s not well built up in her career.

That’s why some high profiled men will always try to marry their type because they’ve similar things in common. Any woman that will always be keen to request money always,either for cosmetics,cloths etc will never be valuable and of no importance to the husband because she’s not all that good in putting the future into consideration,rather she’s been designed in such a way that she’s now myopic about everything. Ain’t trying to sound judgmental but it becomes a problem when it becomes excessive and that you’re not eager to work and get the money to take good care of yourself.

A lady is meant to be hardworking and a visionary and not only spending time in enjoyment. I discovered that some ladies feels reluctant to continue their education,not because they have no opportunity of furthering but have decide to rely on the wealth of her husband. By commission or omission renders you to be taken as nothing as time goes on.

“WHY AM I DELAYED IN MARRIAGE?” You’re busy asking that question everyday while some persons are busy asking, “AMONG ALL THESE MEN,WHO WILL I CHOOSE TO BE MY HUSBAND?” But the fact still remains that the second question springs forth from the mouth of a purposeful, visionary, and a very hardworking lady while the first question is asked by ladies that had already decided long time ago to build their foundation on the bed rock of her husband’s wealth and that’s very uncalled-for.

“A Lady attracts all men when she’s driven by her purpose or vision which indirectly brightens up the beauty everyday. Such beauty, never fades.
-Emmanuel C. Akudolu
…To be continued

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LADIES NUGGETS 1


HEY! BLOW-OFF THE MUCUS.
We want to be better, but we are still letting the mucus to let drop from our nose. Oh!,why all these frustration,embarrassment and delay in the pursuit of my man? You ran all the way from NIGERIA to KENYA to seek for solution but all to no avail. You seek for spiritual help,good and fine,that's cool. At the second thought,have you ever tried to settle down and think about yourself.


I'M THE CAUSE
You're responsible for anything that happens to you. Oh! ye man,you're inexcusable. You're actually the cause of your problems. Let's watch closely on these simple facts:-


UNMARRIED
No man loves me and i think that God hates me. All the blame now, is on God. You want a real,gentle,honourable,rich,God-fearing man etc but if you can tell yourself the truth,you'll discover that you're the opposite of the kind of man you wanted.

WALKING NAKED AND EXPOSED(NUDITY) AND EXPECTING A WELL DRESSED MAN.
When the whole world is viewing your inner part of your body,'every where you go' Are you MTN advertiser? Why must your private part become public part? Hey,lovely ladies of the 21st century,no one is behind your misfortune but just that you've decided your fate wrongly. How do you think that a gentle man that is well built up,will ask for your hand in marriage?

CHARACTERSauciness is no more a news,when a man will kindly excuse you for a little talk,you've started to shout above your voices. No manner of approach,how do you think that you can unknowingly welcome the man of your dream by being saucy. Beauty attracts but character keeps. Don't rely on your beauty but basically look after your character.

-TO BE CONTINUED...
Emmanuel C. Akudolu's

Friday, December 18, 2015

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ARE YOU ROMANTIC?



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Ag! like some will exclaim,which one is 'are you romantic?' O Yeah!, 'ARE YOU ROMANTIC?' Most times we display some level of foolishness to our opposite sex,thinking that we are high stars or am liked by many by what i do for them,forgetting that,there are things that are important or essential for the upliftment of the marriage/relationship.
Hear me now, being romantic is not to be neglected. Being romantic often celebrates nature, the ordinary person, and freedom of the spirit. Once you discover that its very hard for you to appreciate people ,mostly,your opposite sex,then you're a victim. You're not free in spirit as to relate with people and its very bad.
No man wants to spend the rest of his/her life with someone that lacks the quality of being romantic. Even the most religious will desire for a man that is romantic. I discovered recently that even in the church we lack that qualities among married couples and that has resulted to so many things like;divorce,separation,cheating etc.
Reason; Because we lack that quality of being romantic. Maybe you're growing up and also spirit field brother or sister that you can't even grab the knowledge of reading books, knowing the necessary steps of making a happy home,thinking that the rest that do read those type of books are way-ward and stupid. Being 'ROMANTIC' is very essential and these implies;
-Care
-Love
-Communication
-Attention.
-Sacrifice
-Respect
-Faithfulness to one another etc
Mind you that all these qualities can't be acquired when you're only spirit filled, rather,when you enhance yourself with the essential knowledge. Even when you know the qualities or bears one,can you apply it appropriately? It is not evil because king solomon expressed his,in the whole book of songs of solomon.‪

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